One minute you felt loved, wanted and incredibly close to them.
Then they pulled away.
And you’re still trying to understand how someone could make you feel so loved, wanted and close to them – and then pull away as though what you shared meant something completely different to them. something that felt so good could leave you feeling this bad.
And another part of you just wants to stop the cycle, let go and move on with your life.
Maybe they left.
Maybe you did.
Maybe you’re still somewhere in the middle.
But part of you is still waiting.
For the message. The explanation. The apology.
For them to miss you.
Choose you.
Come back.
You’ve replayed conversations. Analysed the mixed signals. Maybe you’ve learned more about attachment styles than you ever intended to.
And still, they have a hold on you.
At some point, the question has to stop being: “Why did they do this?”
and become: “Why can’t I let them go – and how do I get my life back?”
GET YOUR LIFE BACK
I’m creating a new 6-week live programme for people who are ready to stop spending so much of their emotional energy trying to understand someone else…
and finally start moving forward themselves.
We will explore:
Why this kind of relationship can be so difficult to let go of
Why you can know something isn’t right for you and still desperately want it back
What keeps you waiting, hoping, checking, analysing or returning
What happens in your body when connection is withdrawn
And what actually helps you stop the cycle and move forward – not just because you know you should, but because something in you has actually changed.
We will explore:
Why this kind of relationship can be so difficult to let go of
Why you can know something isn’t right for you and still desperately want it back
What keeps you waiting, hoping, checking, analysing or returning
What happens in your body when connection is withdrawn
And what actually helps you stop the cycle and move forward – not just because you know you should, but because something in you has actually changed.
WHY I'M CREATING THIS
I’m not a psychotherapist or an attachment specialist. I’m a therapist, healer and somatic teacher with 36 years’ experience – and I’m on this journey too.
I’ve gone deeply into understanding myself through this brutal and painful experience: the choices I’ve made, what I’m attracted to, the patterns I repeat and, perhaps most confronting of all, the avoidance that exists in me too.
I’ve made huge progress. I feel like I’ve finally come out the other side of something unbelievable. And to be fully honest – I’m still capable, here and there, of making a weird choice that completely perplexes me.
What I never expected was to start seeing this experience, strangely, as a gift. I genuinely never thought I’d say that.
Not because I’m grateful for being hurt, but because of what the experience has made me see about myself.
I’m bringing what I’ve learned through that journey together with the therapeutic and somatic perspective I’ve developed through decades of working with people.
This isn’t about diagnosing them.
It’s about understanding you, breaking the cycle – and taking back the space in your head, your body and your life that this relationship has been occupying.
THE FIRST LIVE GROUP IS COMING SOON
6-weeks | all genders welcome
Join the waitlist now for first access to dates, programme details and places when the first group opens.
No payment today.